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title: "Exploring Communication Challenges in End-of-Life Care"
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# Exploring Communication Challenges in End-of-Life Care
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## Executive GIST (TL;DR)
- A medical student recounts a poignant experience in a multilingual hospital setting. - The patient, a woman in her 50s, suffered a cerebral hemorrhage. - The husband initially communicated in Mandarin, then switched to Korean when her condition worsened. - The author struggled with language barriers and how they impacted families' connections. - The emotional complexity of communication in critical situations posed ethical dilemmas. - Ultimately, a nod and understanding conveyed hope, though ambiguity remained.
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* DOI: https://doi.org/10.1503/cmaj.260796 [PDF](https://www.cmaj.ca/content/cmaj/198/37/E1445.full.pdf)[Help](https://scholar.google.com/scholar/help.html#access) * [Article](https://www.cmaj.ca/content/198/37/E1445#tab-group-article) * [Responses](https://www.cmaj.ca/content/198/37/E1445#tab-group-eletter) * [Metrics](https://www.cmaj.ca/content/198/37/E1445#tab-group-metrics) * [ PDF](https://www.cmaj.ca/content/cmaj/198/37/E1445.full.pdf) The husband switched to Korean when he thought his wife was leaving us. For three days he had spoken to his wife in Mandarin, the hospital’s official language, and my first language. By the time I met her, she was being ventilated and no longer responsive, but he spoke to her anyway. He explained the ventilator settings he had memorized. He read her the weather. He told her, twice, about the tomatoes their neighbour had brought. On the fourth morning, when her oxygen saturation drifted into the low 80s and stayed there, he leaned closer, and the language changed from Mandarin to Korean. I am a Han medical student and do not speak Korean. In a hospital where Mandarin and Korean speakers meet every day at the bedside, some sentences pass right through me. His wife was in her early 50s. A devastating cerebral hemorrhage had left little hope of meaningful neurologic recovery. By Friday her pupils were fixed, and the attending doctor had begun the conversation about withdrawal of care — conducted, of course, in Mandarin, because that was the language of the consent forms. The husband listened with the alertness of a man being given directions in an unfamiliar city. Then he asked whether he could sit with her until she “rested.” He did not use the word for death. On the fourth morning, I stood near the foot of her bed, not because I was needed, but because medical students often hover in places where they might be called to usefulness. For the previous three days I had repeated portions of the attending’s explanations in simpler Mandarin. The room was crowded with machines and relatives, and silence fell after each explanation, everyone waiting for someone else to speak. The woman’s husband turned to me and asked quietly whether his wife could still hear him. I knew no more than he did. I said, “Sometimes families still speak to patients. It may be comforting.” He looked from me to her, as if trying to decide what to do. Then he said, in Mandarin, almost past me: “Tell her I’m here.” I said it, in Mandarin, as carefully as I could. He watched her face. Nothing. “Tell her the New Year is almost here. Tell her everyone at home is waiting for her to come back.” I said it again, in the same careful Mandarin. Nothing. Then he gave up on the hospital’s language, or on me, or perhaps on the idea that a correct sentence had to be understood by everyone in the room. He bent close to her and began to speak in Korean. His voice lost the careful, public steadiness it had held in Mandarin. It became lower, rougher, no longer meant for the room, but for her. My mother used to wipe my father’s legs after he became paralyzed. He could not feel her touch. She did it anyway, slowly, from the knee to the ankle, then over the foot. I had not thought of this in years. I thought of it now, watching the man’s lips move in a language I could not enter. Then she opened her eyes. It lasted perhaps four seconds. Her gaze drifted, unfocused, somewhere above the IV pole. It’s what we are taught to call a nonspecific arousal response, a reflex rather than evidence of awareness. Her husband stopped speaking. His hand, which had been on her wrist, went very still. A sentence was already forming in my mind: _She heard you_. I knew he would hang onto the words, if spoken, for the rest of his life. I did not say them because I could not know it to be true. He looked at me, holding his breath. His eyes had softened. He said, in Mandarin, so I would understand: “She heard me.” It was not a question. I looked at the monitor, as if the numbers might rescue me. Then I looked at her face, still open-eyed and absent, and at his face, waiting only for the smallest permission. I nodded. Not much, but it counted. Later, in the corridor, I tried to sort out what I had done. There is a kind of restraint that protects a family’s hope, and a kind that lets the family carry the lie. I am not certain which I performed. I thought restraint simply meant saying less. I had not considered it could also determine what others were left to believe. ## Acknowledgements: The author extends sincere gratitude to Dr. Jun Cui for his dedicated mentorship, thoughtful review of the manuscript, and continuous encouragement. The author also gratefully acknowledges Professor Hongfang Qin for her invaluable support and guidance. ## Footnotes * This article has been peer reviewed. * All potentially identifying details have been changed or removed. * Generative artificial intelligence disclosure: During the preparation of this work, the author used OpenAI’s ChatGPT tool for language editing and polishing. 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